selfesteemforwomen

There are so many reasons for ones self-esteem to be weak and hard to rebuild. We have our parents way of raising us, peer pressure at school, pressures at our work place that expect us to succeed with speed of light, society`s view on the perfect person and body type, our children’s expectations of a perfect parent and last but not least our partners wants and desires.

All of these are strong contributors in knocking our self-esteem around until we can barely find a hope to hang onto. Now we are at the bottom of our pit of weakness and we begin the search to survive. The search may be through a therapist, reading tons of articles or books, searching the internet for a site that will answer all our problems in a heart beat, only to find that we are right back at square one in the first challenge to our strength.

Why is that?
Why can we not find that quick fix we all look for?
Why do we have to work at it?
Why do we have to wait for it?
Why is it not as simple as fixing ones computer or car?
Why is it when I think about my past and I fill in the blanks with all the people that I have to blame for my low self-esteem, I am still weak and frustrated?
Why is it when I have one good day and feel on top of the world, does it come crashing down the next?
Why is it that when I read self-esteem articles they sound so convincing at that minute, but then again, I fall back into my rut?
Why, when I go into self-esteem sites, do they charge for e-books and when I finally read them, they sound like everything else that I have read, or have thought of myself?
Why does low self-esteem not happen to everyone?
Why can`t I just wake up and feel good about myself?

Questions!   Questions!

I have a real hard truth for you. The answer to almost every question that you have just read is YOU!
You are the answer to every thought that runs through your mind.
The reason that so many factors can be contributors to ones low self-esteem, is because YOU have learned to allow it. Some where in your life, somehow, you allowed your self-esteem to be put down and it really is as simple as that.

We all know that to be human is to naturally error at some point, even many points in our lives. This will also explain why a select number have fallen into the pit of low self-esteem. Everyone chooses different errors, so for the many of us that have allowed our self-esteem to be weakened we are now faced with how to strengthen it.

I will tell you why…

~D~

People are continuously asking me:

How do I.…..
-feel better about myself?
-get over this hurt and loneliness feeling?
-stop these insecure feelings?
-stop comparing myself to others?
-find a healthy balance in my life?
-stop over eating?
-find happiness in my relationship?
-find a perfect partner?
-find a desire to move forward?
-stop old memories from ruining my present life?
-be a better person?
-fit into the ‘normal’ mold expected of me?
-stop worrying?
-see life through a glass half full as opposed to half empty?
-find sexualual joy with my partner again?
-stop my partners addictions?
I can go on and on with the  ‘how do I’s’ in life.

I cannot do the walk for you, but I sure can help you draw out your map. In my own life and experiences of the ‘How Do I’s’, I have worked very hard at finding answers to all of these weights that pull us down every day.
Life is life…we are all born with similar tools and we are all given a fairly good start.
What we do with our lives is really our own choices…our choices are up to us….we choose which way to go in our map of life.
Yes…it is that simple.
So there you have it….basically where you are right now in your mind is where you have chosen to be.
Some will say…pills are needed…therapy is needed….hmmmm!
Pills lead into more pills and in the end only succeed in clouding ones mind of the reality they need to find a certain clarity.
Therapy seems to also lead into nothing but more therapy and confusion in more cases than not. Oh then we also have that unjustified cost attached to the time involved.
These so called cures would be more helpful if they were used as a temporary support, not as a new way of life, which unfortunately happens to most that take either route to happiness.
An addiction or even a dependency is what ends up evolving.
So what are you left with?
You are left with your own mind and your own choices. It always comes down to one person at the end of the day.
When you are falling asleep, the only person in your thoughts is YOU.
When you wake up in the morning, the only person in your thoughts is YOU.

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You determine which way to think.
You determine what you feel.
You are the only person responsible for how you feel.
You know that happy is so much better and full-filling than sad.
You determine what words will be allowed to remain in  your thoughts.
You are the key to your self-esteem and self-worth being healthy.

When it starts to rain, you know enough to get an umbrella to stay dry.
When you feel cold, you reach for a sweater to stay warm.
When a noise is hurting your ears, you turn it down.
When you see someone crying or hurting, you have immediate positive advice for comforting them.
When you feel sick, you call in to cancel your plans, whether it be work, school or a social outing.
Now with all of these situations, you have no problem taking responsibility of choosing the right thoughts or actions.

So why is it that we….
- fall into very bad habits of taking the hard way around?
- hold onto hurt and pain?
- want to hang onto the victim roles?
- allow our negative thoughts override our positive thoughts?
- allow what others think of us matter more than what we think of ourselves?
-preoccupy so much of our very limited time allowing sadness and memories determine our day?
-work harder at staying down then getting back up?
-sign up for all the pity parties we can find?
-look to blame anyone else for our shortcomings or downfalls?
The toughest step in reaching that happier more balanced you is to truly accept the fact that it is YOU that is the key.
Once you can actually conceive this fact, then you will be able to use your mind and your choices to move forward.
We have already determined and agreed that:
-you know whats right from wrong.
-you know how to think.
-you can react positively when necessary.
-you can choose your thoughts to determine your feelings.
So what are you waiting for now.
You have the answer..it is YOU.
It is not your partner, your parents, your children and most certainly not the media that determines your happiness and self-acceptance.
It is YOU!!!!
This is the first day in the mind of YOU!
The YOU that will make the positive choices of thought.
The YOU that will not allow the past or negative remarks determine how your day will be.
This is the first day in the mind of YOU.
You can accomplish your own happiness, if you choose to!

These are my thoughts and my words.
I choose to share them with you!

~D~

What do you do when one has hurt you?
One that you have trusted and cared about in your life!
What do you do when life hits you blindsided and pulls you down so fast that you almost lose your breathe, not to mention your sense of reality?

Do you become a new friend of negative thinking and allow hate, disgust, bitterness even resentment to take over your thoughts?
I am here to tell you, ” DO NOT do that!”

Do not allow negative thinking to hold you down under that weight of mistrust and the desire to hurt back. It will be a very long road to nowhere fun. Happiness is not at the end of that road!
The only thing that you will find is a need to avenge your pain and sorrows. You will be tricked into thinking that to hurt back is the only way to find closure or some sort of justice.

Again I am here to tell you, “DO NOT do that!”

There is not a person on earth that has not experienced mistrust, criticism or deception in one form or another. Whether it be from a partner, child, co-worker, girl-friend or even a neighbor. When one has been hurt by a close trusted person, that hurt goes into places deep inside of your heart. It is a hurt that is almost unbearable and you feel like your life has come close to an end.
If you give into that hurt and allow it to consume your thoughts, you will fall into a very ugly world of wanting to somehow pay back that person in either the same level of hurt or even a deeper hurt.

I have experienced and witnessed situations where many people including myself  have allowed the negative thoughts to control and blur their thinking.  It only ended up in disaster, ranging from divorce, suicide, murder, even verbal slander which we all know has its own way of causing a very irreparable wound.

The only way to survive a mistrust is to take a step towards a positive remedy and that my dear readers is to learn to forgive.
To be able to forgive is the key that unlocks the doors to a new world, a positive world.
To be able to let the old hurts go and move forward in YOUR life is a must in this closure.
The newness of thoughts once forgiveness has been reached is what you are striving to achieve.
This is your goal.
A life without goals is like a life without purpose.
In order to get to that point, one must learn how to forgive.
Through practice and consistent positive actions and thoughts, your mind will eventually open up and allow forgiveness. Once you have decided to reach out and forgive, you will immediately feel weight lift. You will feel immediate results of freedom.

To hold onto the hurts and negative memories will only result in further hurting one person and that person is YOU!
In any emotional trauma, to hold onto the nightmares and memories only creates a new abuser, that being our own selves.
Forgiveness is but a jumble of letters, it is a mere word. The action of this word is the vital key involved in finding this new
freedom.
It is through an acceptance of a negative situation that has happened and is over and a commitment or decision to let it go forever, that will help you to learn how to replace the power of that negative trap.
It is also imperative to work on freeing yourself as quickly as possible. The longer you dwell and hold onto hurt and mistrust, the farther and more out of control you will become from reaching forgiveness.
One more very important thought that will help you is, that by forgiving and moving on, in no way does this mean that what has happened to you was not a wrong doing or that the person that has hurt you should be free of guilt. Also, this positive move forward through forgiveness does not mean that you are excusing or reducing the action against you.
What it does mean is that you are allowing yourself the freedom to take control of your thoughts and move forward.
You are identifying with the fact that your act of forgiveness is for YOU not the other person involved.
You have replaced your position as victim and prisoner which removes the power of the opposing person and event that caused so much despair.
You have taken your right of choice and have moved toward a healthier, happier pattern of thoughts which will create the freedom to live!

Remember, your choice to forgive has no bearing on how the other person reacts, thinks or chooses to live. The choices you make are for YOU and your happiness alone and for the freedom of thought.

” To Be Wronged Is Nothing Unless You Choose To Remember It”

~D~

My thoughts are going to focus on understanding low self-esteem.

We read a lot of insightful words everywhere telling the sufferers how to overcome their negative thoughts through positive thoughts. This is all very well and good, except we seem to be overlooking how to help the people involved with the sufferers. How to help them understand what really is behind the feelings of low self-esteem and just how much it does trap a persons mind in a state of paralysis.
I am writing this article in hopes to increase awareness and inform partners and family members that are involved with a person that is suffering from low self-esteem.
I have had many requests for this type of information which is a good thing. It shows that there is more support and genuine people out there working to help others find a happy place. It also tells me that all of the information available today is not being read by closed minds nor is it going unwarranted.

I am going to refer to the sufferer of low self-esteem as the receiver and the involved party, as the giver.
The giver will be able to recognize many of the following symptoms and actions as will the receiver.

Low self-esteem feeds on...

~D~

Self-esteem…self-acceptance….being accepted… money… popularity…. vanity…..just because I can….it is the latest fashion…..****…..ect.

These are just a few of the reasons as to the why’s of this type of cosmetic surgery, which do not differ from any other.

I will tell you why…

~D~

There are not too many of us that do not want to be thinner, taller, smarter, or richer and many of us that do not want or think we need to lose a pound here and there.

For many it is more a matter of firming it up and that is usually done with exercise.  But for the people that are carrying weight around with them that is threatening their ability to walk, run, get in and out of a car, a chair at an office building or even breathe…this is a serious issue. My article is more about the need to understand yourself a bit more and to identify with why you have fallen into this addiction for food.

**I have had a weight problem all my life. But I think it is more of a pleasure problem.  I think it is also a self-esteem issue. Food was always a reward in a way..like if you eat all your dinner you can have desert.

Food was and still is a way of socializing … holidays.. going out to eat.. birthdays ect. Even as a baby I am sure that I was given food instead instead of personal affection. If my partner fails to support my diet, then it is all his fault that I have failed. If my friends don’t respect that I am on a diet, how can I follow it through?**

Is this you…can you fit in this thought at any time or even partially?

If it is…then you have spent a good portion of your life dieting and are still 5 steps behind…right? Sounds like this is where the term ‘Yo-YO dieting’ came from.  SO…why are you constantly finding yourself at the start position with these diets?

I will tell you why…

~D~

Being trapped by anything can make one feel as if they are imprisoned in a small space with no air to breathe.
Unlike the Jeanie trapped in a bottle for centuries until someone happened to find this bottle and magically rub it to life. You are not that lucky!
Unfortunately there is no Prince Charming out there that will find you and magically rub you until you are free.

You are the only one that can escape the prison of low self-esteem!
Your self-esteem is up to you and only you.
You can waste days upon days…years upon years waiting and hoping for that someone to come and make your self-esteem higher. It will never happen. You will have lived life lonely, angry, hidden and trapped.

My advice to you is to begin with who you see every time you look in the mirror. That is the only magical wand that will work on YOU!
It is your responsibility to accept you! If you cannot accept you, how can you possibly expect anyone else to accept you.
So many people wander why they fail over and over again in relationships. Constantly looking for answers to what is wrong with them and why they keep picking losers.

Well….as I have said….look in the mirror.

If you do not learn to love yourself for the Gift that you are…you will not be able to see how anyone else can love you. You will constantly be thinking that your thoughts about you… are also their thoughts about you. This way of thinking is where trying to change the other partner begins. Another huge mistake in relationships.
Massive confusions take over and before you know it every little thing becomes an argument.
Your insecurities begin to grow because you know that he cannot love you… because you do not love you.
Then the relationship escalates into the emotional traps. These traps are all seeded from your inability to love who you are and accept your uniqueness as an individual.
You start to feel threatened by other women….take little or no care about how you look…you eat more….drink more…cry more….you feel jealous of other couples relationships….avoid romantic movies…avoid going to places where there are people you do not know….you will even stoop as low as spying on your partner…checking his/her mail…text messages ect.

All of this can turn into a horrible world of destruction….all because you will not accept and be happy with who you are. Your partner is in total and absolute confusion as to what is going on. Some partners do try and help to no avail…then become distant or even leave out of pure frustration and a feeling of failure.

A persons self-acceptance is the key to a high self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth and internal happiness.
If I were to tell you that a necklace would bring you happiness if you wore it every day for the rest of your life…would you ever take it off? Would you not wear it and cherish it?
So then why is it so hard to just accept who you are right now and look toward bettering that person because it feels good.  When you have a healthy self-esteem you better yourself because it feels good and it is a healthy goal. When you have a low self-esteem…you try to better yourself before you even love and accept yourself and that is where you fail. That is why you find yourself constantly feeling like it will never work.
You are always going to be trapped in that bottle floating endlessly through your life time if you do not just… like who you are right now and accept all of your differences as being a good thing.

You are your own best friend.
You are who you should depend on and count on.
It is you who can open that bottle and let yourself be free of low self-esteem!

“Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”
“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.”

Trusting issues and jealousy basically go hand in hand.
When you do not trust in your own self as to how unique and important you are….you immediately feel less than and with that, insecurities rise up and jealousy is born. A true symptom of a lack of trust in yourself!
The only way to trust easily is to let yourself do so. It is easy once you understand why you are finding it so damn hard.

We are creatures of habit….habits are repetitive thoughts or actions that we fall into immediately because they are the last stored file in our thought patterns which end up being in the forefront of our brain. What this means is that the last thought or reaction stored will be the first one used when your emotions begin to rise in either a negative or positive response.

Habits are something that I talk about all of the time.
‘Habit’ is a very small word which carries so much reality and control over our positive and negative reactions and thoughts. The word ‘habit’ is also difficult to accept as what causes people to stay stuck in jealousy or insecure emotional traps.
It takes at least 14 days to break a habit, according to the latest researchers.
Now when I say that, I mean 14 days of consistent behavior, repeated over and over on the same subject matter.
That is why breaking an emotional habit is difficult. We do not run into fears and threats in a consistent manner.
We basically have to discipline ourselves into a self-talk therapy every day whether we are actually challenged with one of our fears or not. In doing this we must be prepared for 14 days of feeling very much on an emotional roller-coaster. This is exactly why so many people go to therapists for support in breaking negative emotional habits. It is not a simple task.
Silly analogy here but it seems to fit…think of a habit as pulling an end of a plastic electrical tie through its lock and then trying to pull it back. A very tough thing to accomplish, unless you work at it and stay committed to see it through to the end. It is not impossible but it is very challenging for most people.

We are still searching for the answers to questions such as….
Why is it so damn hard to trust?
Why is it so hard to feel good about yourself and your relationship any time and anywhere?

It is more so that, somewhere along the line you have fallen into a belief that you are not worthy of that relationship and you are in fear that at any second someone else will take over and replace you. Hence a low self-esteem or self-worth!

Trust is not about what another person may or may not do to you or that they observe another.

It is about:
- how safe you feel, being who you are.
- why you put yourself down.
- why you instantly compare yourself to another.
- why you feel the need immediately find a flaw in another that you feel threatened by.
- why your insides tighten and twist so that you find it hard to breathe at times.
- why you cannot accept a compliment at face value.
-why you look in the mirror and hate who you see.

Trust is all about YOU!

In order to battle and overcome one’s insecurities in life,:
-you must feel secure in who you are and accept who you are.
-you must stop wanting to change what you cannot.
-you must learn to appreciate every little thing about who you are.
-you must focus on loving who you are.
-you must want to be happy about who you are.
-you must realize that every second that you dwell on unhappy thoughts…is life being wasted.
-you must learn that trust inside of you>

To be able to trust another and feel secure in a relationship…you must accept you, right now, this second.
Accepting who you are and allowing that thought to determine your life will in turn give you peace of mind.
You cannot control what another person is going to do, so why waste another second trying to through your own thoughts.
Accept that you are you and your partner is your partner.

Here are two very good thoughts to keep as your daily inspirations..

“To be Wronged is Nothing unless You continue to Remember It!”
“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are!”

Remember…trust comes from within your own thoughts and self-acceptance.
Strengthen those and your life will be what it is meant to be and that is free of chaos and doubt!!

DorothyL

Have you ever been caught up in a thought that will not let you out?
Escape is not an option.
What was a simple drip in your pool of thoughts, quickly turned into an ocean of tidal waves rolling into each other, over and over again. This is what it feels like to not have positive control over your mind.
Our minds often repeat hurtful thoughts or scenarios over and over, even when we’d much rather let them go. If you start really listening to your inner voice, you are probably dwelling on the past, remembering how someone may have let you down or how much anger you still hold back from being hurt. If you fear the challenges that are waiting for you or you are ashamed at where you are now in your life as compared to where you had planned on being, these fears will definitely be in line to play the mind game on you. All of these insecure or hurtful emotions that you once tucked away will come back to play when the game begins. The problem is, when they come back, you will not recognize them and this will be your first bad move. Now the mind game begins.

The game is of the mind, to confuse you in your thought process. When your mind is triggered even slightly by a word, a picture, or even a look what we want to do is to think positive, nice, sweet and safe thoughts. If you have the slightest opening in your mind the game will begin. It will take a thought and wait for your first emotional weakness. Then it will twist that thought and magnify it so that it feeds on that weakness and sends you into that ugly world of negative thinking.

You would give anything to shake off these negative thoughts, but we all know so well that it’s easier said than done.  Instead you struggle through your day feeling like you are a freak and that if you do not get a grip on this mind game and soon you will explode. All that you want is to be free of negative thoughts and be happy all the time.

You spend a lot of time thinking over negative feelings and sulking over regrets and misfortunes. The worst part is that the more you try to end this horrible game that twists your brain so tight, the worse it gets. You will try to avoid your hidden shames and worries or drown them with alcohol or drugs. All that happens when that little fix-it ends is that the mind game becomes stronger.
New thoughts continue, the game attacks again only to turn those thoughts against you. You can feel them escalate into negative scenarios in your mind, but at this point powerless. The power of the game is winning and you are now in the believing stage of the game. Your mind now believes your negative thoughts. You are forced to react and through this reaction the mind game soars and takes over even further. Now it not only controls you but it has also taken control of your entire world and whoever is in it at the time. You collapse from the draining feeling of failure once again. You feel that you will never be able to win this mind game. You feel that you will be a pawn for the rest of your days on earth.  A doormat and a bug to stepped on over and over again because of your inability to gain strength and take control of your positive mind. So why not just give in? Why not just bow down whenever you fail to think positive thoughts? Well, I will tell you why you do not want to do that!

You are a human being with a heart and a brain. You were given the ability to feel emotions. Emotions such as: self-respect,  self-esteem,  humor,  love,  laughter,  sexuality,  self-confidence but most of all you were given intelligence and the will to survive. You were given the gift of life. Those are the reasons to fight. How to fight is also right there in front of you.

You are already aware of the mind game. Most of you have played it so long that you should be the champions by now. I have talked about habits many times and I will keep talking about them. Through habits you can defeat many of those mind games. Try to simplify your thoughts. The stronger the game tries to twist them the harder you work to shrink them.

I read about an interesting way to look at this. Think of your thoughts as a pop-up ad on your computer. You see it and then you don`t. Or it pops up and you simply delete it without giving it a second thought. Even if it was a negative pop-up you spend no time at all analyzing where it came from, you simply carry on with what you were doing. This is a good way to play, and win the game. Also another way to play and win is when your thought begins to twist through the negative game, start to vocalize it. Sing it quietly to yourself or hum out loud. This will confuse the game, and throw it off track. Immediately when you get a thought that seems to be fair game think of something very funny or a very sad movie that made you cry. A very good habit is to change your thought track. The game cannot keep up when the track is jumped. Be aware that your mind is a game field but you have to play it in order to win. If you do not play you will lose by defeat. SAD!!!

So my words to you is this : KICK IT`S BUTT!!!!!!!

~D~
DorothyL@womensselfesteem.com

Jealousy and ones feelings of low self-esteem seems to have become  a widespread issue for so many women these days. It is not that women are just beginning to suffer from these horrible confining emotions, it is more that women are finally seeking ways to overcome them.

But overcoming them is just the first step, then we must learn to stay the course and be ready for their ugly return, because they will return. It is like any negative trauma that our minds experience. The memory of the trauma never goes away, it is that we learn to put it in a safe place. If we allow this memory to gain strength and return, it will.

Jealousy and low self-esteem will attack ones mind to the point of damaging it in the same way a death of a loved one or a severe shock will. I kid you not there, if you have ever in your life felt any of these negative emotions, you will agree with that.

Jealousy and low self-esteem are very strong negative feelings and they will control your every breathe. Negative feelings that will scar your world and your memory.

They will confine you into a room with all the blinds pulled down and the doors locked.

They will not stop until your fears have you totally convinced that you have to lock your partner away so that none can threaten his thoughts.

They will play mind games with you which I refer to as,”Mind trickery” a few times in this article.

Mind Trickery is when your positive and negative thoughts battle to control your actions and reactions to certain situations.

Here is an example of mind trickery:

You will have days where you will feel that you have finally beat those weaknesses and negative feelings.

You will feel so proud of yourself.

You will feel like you can do this and that you have done it.

You will walk into the world with your self-esteem glowing and your medal of first place in the race against jealousy shining.

You will actually be happy for a change.

You will be so tricked into thinking that you have finally battled and beat the negative side of your mind that you will drop your defenses and literally walk naked.

Then it will happen, mind trickery at its best.

The negative feelings will attack.

They will attack when you least expect it.

This is what mind trickery is about.

Jealousy and low self-esteem have won in the battle of mind trickery.

You underestimated your own thoughts again.

So now what?

Do you allow them to once again traumatize your life and paralyze your happiness?

or do you fight harder than you have ever fought before to keep them where they are secured?

Then even when you may have succeeded in that, you will be faced with your own feelings of disappointment in allowing your mind to fall victim to the destruction of negative feelings. Again you will need strength to over come those self destructing feelings of negativism.

Here is a scenario to show you how the return of those negative feelings work. It is again up to you to not allow them to win their attempts to return.

You have just walked into a restaurant with your partner feeling on top of the game, its been so long since your negative feelings have taken you down that you have totally left your guard open for attack.

You spot the threat, you immediately feel a shot go directly through your stomach.

You feel yourself losing the ability to maintain a steady breathe.

Your strength is weakening so fast that you feel the return of the old panic.

You immediately want to retaliate as you have done so many times in the past with snide remarks and confrontation, but you recognize that those reactions only made you weaker in the past so you  fight them.

You take control of what little strength you have left and you scream out for any positive thought that you can find.

You feel it subside just a bit.

You don`t allow the negative feelings to override your positive thoughts.

You will not be able to completely escape the negative feelings.

You will definitely feel your self-esteem fall.

Those inner thoughts of how you are,” not as pretty or good”, as that of the threat you have just walked into, are back.

You are there, you have fallen, your body begins to shrink, you want to disappear from your partners eyes before he can pick up on those feelings, feelings that he will surely not be happy to see return.

Your mind is now in a full battle of negative against positive thoughts.

Your head feels like it is going to erupt.

Your body starts to tremble as you struggle to maintain even the smallest positive thought.

You will feel the need for some outside help from your partner, just one word, or one touch to support your importance to him.

You realize that this is yet another negative feeling trying to gain on your positive side.

For him to have to do that, will only make you weaken again the next time.

You must do this yourself.

All alone, you must fight this battle in your mind.

You must continue to fight for your positive thoughts to get stronger.

You begin to make silly conversation if you have to.

You even make a funny face in your mind to make yourself laugh.

You  redirect your thoughts until you finally have found an opening for your positive thoughts to get in and take over.

You feel your body begin to calm, your breathing begins to steady and you feel total control over your negative thoughts.

You have won this battle of return.

You have taken control over the mind trickery and returned those negative feelings back to a safe place.

Now you have to deal with your own disappointment of thinking that you would never be back in that weak position again.

A position of feeling your self-esteem trampled on and the feelings of needing to hide from the world in order to protect yourself.

You can do this, it is natural to feel disappointment, even good to a certain degree. In feeling disappointment in yourself, it acknowledges that your awareness is stronger and your ability to battle,” The UGLY Return of Jealousy and Low Self-esteem”, is also stronger.

Negative thoughts are what will bring you down, and you will feel that you will never be able to get up again.

Fear not, your mind will defend itself to protect you and will help you find the positive thoughts that you need to maintain a happy balance of thinking. Just do not fall into the habit of the negative rut. The longer you allow the negative feelings to stay with you, the longer you will be in that rut.

Happiness is something you should fight for, it is the feeling that you want, it will also help strengthen your positive thoughts. So be happy!!!!